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= HORROR STORY OF THE CPS =
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my story
about 2 yrs ago my girls dad hit my son hard in the face i jumped in between them to divert his attention away from my son he then assualted me.
we were living w/ his mom at the time and he wouldnt give me the keys to the car so i could leave so his mom gave me hers. ( i love that woman)
i took my kids ( i have 4; 2 by him 2 from a previous relationship) and left until after midnight. i had to return to give his mom her car back. my kids and i slept on the floor in the living room that night. i wanted to leave but had no one to help me. i had even asked my mom but she refused. (our relationship has always been kind of strianed to say the least)
anyways the next day my son felt SO guilty that he saw me assualted trying to protect him and did nothing to help me that it was obvious in his attitude that soemthing was wrong. his counselor called him into her office and he told her what had happened they called social services.
the police were also called. they wanted to take my kids and i and put us in a shelter but the social worker refused. she said that since i failed to call 911 when i was assualted then i failed to protect my kids. they went to a childrens home for the night. then they were split my older 2 went to a friends house and my younger 2 went 1st w/ my mom and then to his moms.
i went into a homeless shelter. it was much easier to leave when i was on my own. so in a way im grateful that i got that opportunity. they ordered us to do counseling for me my girls dad and my 2 older kids and for him and i to do parenting classes. he was only in counseling for 6 weeks. after 6 weeks, his contract expired and our social worker didn't renew it so he didnt have to go anymore. the bottom line: he saw his counselor once a week for 6 weeks!
he was arrested for assualting me but has a best friend thats a bailsbondsman that bailed him out hours later. in criminal court they gave him community service and a 52 wk batterers club / class. he also has to register with some database and is on 3 yrs. of informal probation. that means he has no supervision by a probation officer.
after doing everything i was supposed to do and more and almost a yr later the social worker decided my kids could come back home. she gave me my older 2 ft and my younger 2 believe it or not she gave me 1/2 custody of. she ordered them (ages 2 & 3 at the time) to go back and forth every single week between my house and their dads house. (he was already in a new relationship and was living w/ his gf.) i argued that the girls would have no stability but my argument was considered invalid by cps.
i went to court last thur. my case was supposed to be closed. FINALLY after 2 yrs. the social worker and my lawyer both were requesting it close! i was so excited. but thats not the way things happened. my 2 older kids case was closed. they left my 2 younger kids (now almost 4 & 5) opened. their lawyers argued that them going back and forth every other week wasnt stable!!
my social worker said i had to work it out w/ my girls dad on my own. i offered him (against my better judgement) fri. after they get outta school til sat night around 8 for a month and the following month sat morn til sun around 6 (so they could be ready for school on mon) the following month to alternate every month. plus alternate holidays and 1/2 the summer. he told me to sign my girls over to him or fight him in court.
i asked my worker for help and all she said is that although she feels the girls should live primarily w/ me that their dad and i have to come to an agreement on our own before the next report is written or she will leave visitation as is and my case will remain open
so thats where im at today. hes not cooperating or comprimising w/ me at all. im so aggravated w/ our family court system. i have since got my own place and a very well paying career (not just a job) have graduated many classes and programs and all hes done is move in w/ his new gf and get married. hes self employed and hasnt worked for months so he cant support them w/o his wifes help and to top it all off i get charged every time we go to court. $200/per child . $800 EACH TIME WE GO TO COURT they only bill me (not him the assailant) because they know i have a job and can pay.
and to top it all off when my case does finally close completly i'm told that i and i alone will be billed for the $ that the childrens caretakers got the year they were not at home....and he pays nothing ??? how does this work????
*******update**** my social worker came to visit 2 weeks ago. when i told her i was not having any luck getting the girls dad to compromise and change the visitation, she said "just forget it and leave it how it is. hopefully they'll still close the case!" she even told me to tell my lawyer to push hard for the visitation to remain how it is!!! unbelievable
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graGRACE N ANGELScenangel writes "Helping Battered Women
Michael K. Gilbertson, Ph.D., B.C.E.T.S.
Introduction
Violence is an increasing problem in our society. Police and social scientists have long been concerned with the level of violence in our streets. Juvenile specialists have noted the link between violence at home and the increased likelihood of adolescent crime. Of the adults that the courts have remanded to me for treatment, the majority have come from emotionally or physically abusive homes. Even witnessing violence can leave emotional scars as deep as being the recipient of violence.
In this social context, battered women deserve a special focus. The battered women themselves are of course the primary victims. But the secondary victims are their children. Boys who witness their mothers being battered are more likely to commit acts of violence themselves. Girls who observe domestic violence are more likely to tolerate abusive partners as adults, thus subjecting another generation to the same sad dynamics.
So, how do we intervene? The answer is related to questions that colleagues and I have often asked ourselves and each other: Why do battered women tolerate the abuse for so long before seeking help? And why, even after receiving help, do they so often return to their abusive partners?
In her ethnographic study, Patricia Gagne (1992) writes of Leah and her abusive husband Andy. After years of violence at Andy's hands, Leah left. A shelter worker helped her relocate. But after several months she returned to Andy. "You know, with everything in my heart and soul I did not want to come back, and why I did I really don't know" (p. 409). This paper proposes some answers to Leah's question. As the problem is multifaceted, likewise, the answers are complex. These women are not helped sufficiently, in part because focus at the ecological levels of the state and the community reduces focus on the individual. The reasons for this inadequate response involve the theoretical constructs of status, sexism, and (failure to consider) how systems interact. Systems' interaction explains how victim behavior and social perceptions interact to keep even helpful emphasis off the victims. Systems' interaction also specifically acknowledges mutually interactive aspects of attachment theory and the biochemistry of trauma--received or witnessed.
Understanding the Problem
Bell and Jenkins (1993) reveal the staggering amount of violence in contemporary American inner cities. Equally disturbing to these authors was the amount of life-threatening violence that Black youths witnessed. They were growing up amid victimization of alarming proportions. Not surprisingly, they found that the effects of witnessing violence were *****ulative and that perpetration of violence by the youth was related to the violence witnessed.
Increasingly, researchers are recognizing that an environment of chronic violence and its perceived dangers causes many children to adapt in dysfunctional ways. The maladaptive patterns are usefully understood within the framework of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), (Garbarino, 1992), a point to which I will return later. As I noted earlier, girls who witness battering grow up, in disproportionate numbers, tend to be abused themselves (Waites, 1993). Another way of viewing this is that people who have been directly or indirectly victimized are likely to be victimized again (McFarlane & van der Kolk, 1996).
So, clearly, one point of intervention to break this cycle of violence would involve interrupting domestic violence against women. In the field of cultural anthropology, researchers like Jacquelyn Campbell (1992) have found that, across cultures, wife battering is linked to male dominance and cultural norms that tolerate domestic violence. Because of findings like Campbell's, a solid argument exists that, at the institutional/state level, part of the problem is that legislatures are composed primarily of men--men who are presumably influenced by a culture that encourages them to view women as objects of possession (Gagne, 1992).
Status theory and Marx's theories of power may dovetail here. Longres (1995) cites an experiment by Wendy Harrod where subjects deferred to others who they thought were being paid more. The experiment is used in support of social exchange theory. It could just as well support status theory: more social power flows to those with the most status, a component of which is material possessions. In any case, more power and status accrue to those who possess than to those who are objects of possession, and Marx was undoubtedly correct to presume that those in powerful, high-status positions are unlikely to readily alter their positions (Longres, 1995). But despite a possible reluctance to alter a status quo from which they benefitted, lawmakers have begun to respond to issues of domestic violence. Still, even as laws increasingly begin to reflect our national concern about domestic violence, the rates of battering still climb (Waites, 1993), and women continue to return to abusers--further swelling the domestic abuse numbers.
Could more be done at the ecological level of the community? Campbell (1992) for one feels that the neighborhood level should be the focus of our efforts. In small communities progress was initially slowed by the patriarchal thinking that Van Soest & Bryant (1995) found typical in the United States. Workers at women's crisis shelters have told me that patriarchal factors resulted in de facto sexism when it came time to seek funding for buildings or staff. Despite these formidable difficulties, crisis centers with predominantly female staff and board members exist in most communities with which I am familiar. Still, the rates of spousal abuse show no signs of leveling, and having a safe refuge hasn't prevented many women from returning to be revictimized.
I do not mean to suggest that because neither laws at the state level nor interventions at the community level have halted the rise in wife battering that we should withdraw our attention from either level. Public awareness campaigns addressing domestic violence could benefit from better funding at both levels. And certainly society-wide attention to poverty could only be beneficial since low socioeconomic status correlates with domestic abuse (Whipple & Webster-Stratton, 1989 cited in Webster-Stratton, 1990).
Nevertheless, if we are going to shed light on the vexing problem of why so many battered women put up with abuse and then return to their victimizers when they do have a way out, we must examine the individual. For many Social Workers the discouraging fact remains that despite better laws and shelter programs, most of the women they help will return to the same abuse. We do these women a disservice if we ignore the problem at the intrapsychic level.
So why isn't intrapsychic information about victims of violence more widely assimilated and dispersed? It is not because we lack a systematic body of research that would help us understand victims of trauma. Information about the biochemistry of PTSD, and attachment theory give us a useful series of lenses with which to view revictimization. That the information is not better known to clinicians may be because of the same theoretical constructs I already examined: status theory and theories of sexism.
Social Work, a predominantly female field, has in its recent history taken a dim view of intrapsychic emphasis, linking it with patriarchal Freudian thought and blaming it (among other things) for the perceived failure of the profession to heed the larger social issue of impoverishment during the Great Depression (Simon, 1994). One could argue that assuming an intrapsychic emphasis would not enhance one's professional status as a Social Worker.
Perhaps more central to issues of status and sexism is a legitimate concern among women that any focus that smacks of blaming the victim is inherently unjust. John Longres (1995) elaborates the position of William Ryan (who coined the term "blaming the victim") this way: "Social service workers also blame the victim when they acknowledge the societal causes of problems but intervene only at the level of the individual" (p. 8). If the victims are overwhelmingly female, as in spousal battering, blaming them for their troubles also becomes the crassest sexism.
Is there a way out of this dilemma? Perhaps, but first we must recognize it as a false dilemma. Looking for points of intervention is not the same as blaming the victim. If we feel victims are at fault, we have no need to intervene; we can justify ignoring their plight. But if we wish to help battered women, one possibility is to find ways to enable them to change patterns of behavior. That would be genuine self-empowerment. And it does not mean we have to cease addressing issues at the state or community level. However, we can only help individuals empower themselves if we understand the biochemistry and attachment dynamics of trauma.
Understanding the Problem at the Level of the Individual
Trauma researchers have frequently noted the link between trauma and retraumatization (Browne & Finkelhor, 1986). For our purposes this phenomenon is the statistical tendency to be a victim of repetitive trauma after suffering childhood abuse. Briere & Runtz (1988) found women who had been abused as minors were more likely to have been in abusive adult relationships. Diane Russell (1986) noted in her study that women who had a history of incest were twice as likely to report physical violence in their marital relationships as women who had no such childhood history.
So what may be happening here? Well, colloquially we speak of people who seem to crave danger as "adrenaline junkies." We would be closer to the mark if we dropped the implied moral judgment and looked elsewhere than adrenaline. It is true that a frightening situation produces epinephrine (adrenaline), but it also triggers the release of endogenous opioids (endorphins and enkephalins) whose purpose is to produce analgesia. The ability to inhibit pain in a traumatic situation is an obvious advantage.
There is, however, a downside. Our own opioids are as addictive as exogenous opioids. In an article exploring self-injury in adults, Thompson and his colleagues (1994) noted that release of endogenous opioids had the same reinforcing potential as heroin or morphine. They speculated that individuals may continue harmful behaviors to avoid the discomfort of withdrawal. This fact has led van der Kolk (1989) to describe the resulting "addiction to trauma" as a mechanism for understanding the apparently compulsive behavior of self-abuse that characterizes many trauma victims. The more flagrant forms of self-abuse like cutting on oneself or headbanging may first suggest themselves as addictive behavior, but allowing someone else to do the damage may share the same link to opioids release.
Nor does the effect need to be maintained from childhood until marriage by continual abuse to retain its potency. When people with PTSD were exposed to a stimulus that resembled a trauma occurring two decades earlier, they developed an opioids-mediated analgesia that was equivalent to 8 mg of morphine (Pitman, van der Kolk, Orr, & Greenberg, 1990).
Several women from physically abusive relationships whom I have treated have told me of sensing the familiar buildup of domestic tension, then provoking a fight "just to get it over with." This response is an occasional part of the well known cycle of domestic violence. What is not expected is the answer I often get when I ask about their emotional state as the fighting begins. Several women have thought about it, then spoken of a sense of calm that obviously puzzled them. Given the numbing effects of endogenous opioids, their emotional response to violence may be understandable. Since they do not understand it, their appraisal of their behavior usually invokes shame.
And shame is the bridge to understanding how negative self-appraisal and attachment theory interact with the biochemistry of trauma to further perpetuate the cycle of revictimization. When battered wives were children, those who suffered abuse at the hands of caregivers were at risk to endure understandable threats to their attachment bonds. Disruption to attachment bonds with caregivers due to neglect or abuse produces distorted identity schema resulting in "bad me" appraisals. Not understanding the biochemistry of why they tolerate abuse or feel paradoxically calm when being battered leads abused women to feel shame, which reinforces the negative self-appraisal first put in place by disrupted attachment bonds. So an examination of attachment is in order.
We are biologically programmed to establish a secure bond with our caregivers. This drive is most pronounced under the threat of danger--even if the danger is from our caregivers. Beverly James (1994) uses the phase "trauma bonding" to describe how children are forced by trauma to cling in a nondiscriminating fashion to abusive caregivers no matter what the cost.
The cost is usually to self-esteem. Since children must preserve the attachment bond or the illusion of a pseudoattachment, they do so by what in object relations theory is called "splitting," to convince themselves that their parents are good and the bond is secure. Since "bad parent-good parent" splitting creates too much cognitive dissonance without the aid of traumatic dissociation and amnestic barriers, a more common split is "good parent-bad me." This tendency makes more sense when considering the egocentrism of young children whereby they attribute things happening to them as due to their own actions (Piaget, 1962). Years later many people first traumatized as children feel responsibility for their own abuse and perceive themselves to be unlovable or despicable (van der Kolk, 1996). These dynamics are often encouraged by abusers who generally refuse responsibility for their actions and are only too willing to blame their victims for imagined transgressions.
Once locked into a "bad me" split, children must selectively pursue evidence of their unworthiness. The resulting guilt can only be expiated by punishment. Many of my abused clients have said that they feel a vague sense that they will be punished and that they feel as if they "deserve" such punishment. If this tack seems a little too psychodynamic (dare I say Freudian?), then at least it should be clear how a low sense of self-worth, coupled with overresponsibility, could lead a woman to make excuses for her battering husband.
At this point a reader familiar with the Stockholm Syndrome might wonder if that phenomenon is relevant to the discussion. It might be. Several years ago in Stockholm a bank robber held a woman as hostage for several days in the bank's vault. When rescued, the woman denied that her captor was responsible for her pain. She was in fact quite indignant at the force the police had used to capture her assailant. She seemed to be infatuated with the gunman.
The key here might be the infantilization of the hostage who was dependent upon her captor for food, water, and toilet privileges. Frank Ochberg (1995) thinks this traumatic age regression (my term, not Dr. Ochberg's) accounts for the almost primal gratitude for life's necessities that many hostages feel if they're shown even a little kindness. He specifically links the Stockholm Syndrome with the bond many battered women feel for their abusers.
Lest the above seem too simplistic a portrait of some battered women, a portrait that paints them as largely incompetent, I would add that I have witnessed the above dynamics in very professionally accomplished women. Bessel van der Kolk (1996) finds the same occurrence: "High levels of competence and interpersonal sensitivity often exist side by side with self-hatred . . ." (p. 196).
How widely spread could the above dynamics be? Though overgeneralization should be avoided, aspects of attachment dynamics may account for more revictimization than a skeptic might think. Reviewing previous research, van der Kolk & Fisler (1994) found that a majority of children who experienced abuse or neglect developed disorganized attachment patterns.
Implications for Practice and Policy
Now that a base for understanding revictimization has been suggested, let me begin this section by observing how victim behavior patterns, mediated by trauma addiction and trauma bonding, could interact with systems at the state and community levels to reinforce victim stereotypes. Looking at the repetitive nature of victim behavior without understanding it can lead to reductive labeling. Specifically I have in mind the terms female masochism and Borderline Personality Disorder (assigned overwhelmingly to women). The former term presumes that pain gives psychological gratification without understanding the biochemical basis for the behavior. The latter term presumes an innate character flaw without considering the traumatic etiology. It is significant that Herman and van der Kolk (1987) found that Borderline Personality Disorder was associated with a history of abuse.
Pejorative labeling in our culture can only make it harder for professionals who wish to help battered women to obtain the legal protection and the immediate aid they need. But as I have argued, avoiding labeling by refusing to examine individual behavior keeps Social Workers from intervening effectively at the level we often encounter domestic violence: face to face.
What the above suggests is that in our professional practice we must educate ourselves about the dynamics and biochemistry of PTSD. I have found few things as immediately gratifying to women as when they truly grasp that their behavior is understandable and, by implication, treatable; they are not unworthy, shameful humans. Of course this places the burden on clinicians to master the therapeutic treatments used for trauma-based disorders and a burden on non-clinical Social Workers to know when and to whom to refer.
At the policy level we must be prepared to argue for the treatment intervention time needed to help clients rework complex attachment patterns and deal with actual withdrawal from their own opioids. In an era of managed care it will be a formidable undertaking to argue for more, not less, financial aid at the state and local levels.
Recommendations for Further Research
At this time medications commonly used to help with withdrawal symptoms from exogenous opioids are pretty much limited to Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) like fluoxetine to help with the attendant depression and benzodiazepines to calm the patient. In any case, using carefully monitored SSRIs and benzodiazepines for battered women in shelters would be a useful pilot study if carefully designed.
Another promising area could be (are you ready for this?) - acupuncture. Avants and his colleagues (1995) have shown some forms of acupuncture to be beneficial for treating opioids addiction. A pilot study with battered women could be economically designed.
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Posted by gracenangels on Saturday, June 07 @ 16:17:47 GMT (21 reads)
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Plain Talk About...Wife Abuse
National Institute of Mental Health Division of Scientific and Public Information Plain Talk Series - Ruth Kay, Editor
"To have and to hold...to love and to cherish..."
"Be it ever so humble, there's no place like home."
These sentiments reflect the feelings of most people towards marriage, home, and family - but not all. The surprising fact is that a lot of violence, bringing fear and pain, is reported among family members.
For example, about one-quarter of all murders in the United States take place within the family. Surveys of American couples show that 20 to 50 percent have suffered violence regularly in their marriages. The records indicate that between two and four million incidents of domestic violence occur every single year. Wife abuse is one kind of family violence that probably occurs far more often than most people imagine. The tragedy is that many women suffer this abuse for years without getting help. This flier explores what wife abuse is, who experiences it, some reasons it occurs, the pattern it usually takes, and why women don't get help. Finally, it looks at what women can do if they are abused and how, ultimately, the abuse might be prevented.
WHAT DO WE MEAN BY "WIFE ABUSE"?
Defining wife abuse or wife battering is not easy. For starters, whom are we thinking of when we use the word "wife"? Actually, any woman who maintains an intimate relationship with a man (her husband, ex-husband, boyfriend or lover) could become a battered or abused "wife." The words "abused" or "battered" which are used here do not refer to the normal conflict and stress that occur in all close relationships, but rather to the violence that can cause serious injury and death. In the pamphlet, "Assaults on women: rape and wife-beating," Natalie Jaffe cites a typical description of the kind of physical harm suffered by battered women surveyed in shelters and treatment in California.
"Most injuries were to the head and neck and, in addition to bruises, strangle marks, black eyes, and split lips, resulted in eye damage, fractured jaws, broken noses, and permanent hearing loss. Assaults to the trunk of the body were almost as common and produced a broken collarbone, bruised and broken ribs, a fractured tailbone, internal hemorrhaging, and a lacerated liver."
These are serious consequences of serious assaults. Another serious aspect is that once wife beating occurs, it is likely to happen again and again, with violence getting worse over time.
A CLOSER LOOK AT HOW THE ABUSED WOMAN FEELS
A woman who has been abused over a long period of time is afraid. Not only is she afraid that she, herself, will be seriously hurt, but if she has children, she fears for their safety also. Her feelings of fear link her to all other women, from all classes of society, in similar situations.
Fear might be a woman's first and most immediate feeling during or after a beating, but other negative feelings may surface when she is not in physical danger. The abused woman is apt to develop doubts about herself. She might wonder if she is justified in fearing for her life and calling herself an "abused wife." Most likely, however, a woman who thinks or feels she is being abused, probably is.
Or, she may feel guilty, even though she's done nothing wrong. An abused wife may feel responsible for her husband's violence because in some way she may have provoked him. This has her placing the shame and blame on herself - instead of her abuser. The longer she puts up with the abuse and does nothing to avoid or prevent it, the less she likes herself. Along with the feeling of being a failure, both as a woman and in her marriage, may come a real feeling of being trapped and powerless, with no way out.
WHY DO MEN ABUSE THEIR WIVES?
Instances of wife abuse have been on record in the United States since the 1830s, but only every now and then does it arouse public concern. Generally, public opinion supports traditional family relations and male authority. The battering syndrome is both cause and effect of stereotyped roles and the unequal power relations between men and women. No social class is exempt. Wife abuse occurs in wealthy as well as in poor communities - in middle class as well as in working class families. Over the years it has been tolerated by those who govern community affairs, the courts, medicine, psychiatry, police, schools, and the church. History shows that the helping professions often protected patterns of family authority, unwittingly sanctioning wife abuse rather than condemning it.
Other Factors
Present day society is one in which violence in the movies, on TV, and in the newspapers is familiar and accepted. Many husbands who abuse their wives have learned that violence, especially against women, is okay. They often were abused themselves as children or saw their mothers abused. The battered wife most likely grew up in a similar environment.
There are other psychological reasons. A wife abuser tends to be filled with anger, resentment, suspicion, and tension. He also, underneath all his aggressive behavior, can be insecure and feel like a loser. He may use violence to give vent to the bad feelings he has about himself or his lot in life. Home is one place he can express those feelings without punishment to himself. If he were angry with his boss and struck him, he would pay the price. But all too often he gets away without penalty when he beats his wife. She becomes the target of his vengeance, and he gets the satisfaction he's looking for.
What about the victimized wife? If she accepts her husband's traditional male authority, she may be labeled as immature. If she fights back or if she refuses to sleep with him if he's drunk, she might be accused of being hostile, domineering, and masculine. These are complaints of abused women.
PATTERNS
Familiar patterns of wife abuse often develop in three phases: the tension-building phase, the explosion or the actual beating phase, and the loving phase. The tension builds over a series of small occurrences such as a wife's request for money, her refusal to do all the household chores without her husband's help, her serving a meal not pleasing to him, or a similar incident. What follows is inevitable. She may become the object of any or all of the following assaults: punching with fists, choking, kicking, knifing, slamming against a wall, throwing to the floor, or shoving down the stairs. Sometimes even threats with a gun have been reported. When the beating is over, the couple move into the third phase. The batterer feels guilty about what he has done. He is sorry and may become loving towards her. He assures his wife that he will never do anything violent or hurtful to her again. At that moment, he may believe he will never hurt her again. She wants to believe him, hoping that he will change. However, even with professional help, the tension building and the beatings may continue
WHY DO WOMEN STAY?
Women have learned that it may be their own feelings of fear, guilt, or shame that keep them in a relationship that is physically abusive. Often, social and economic pressures compel a woman to stay. Sometimes she stays for lack of somewhere to go for shelter and advice or because she still feels that she loves her husband and that he might change, if only she can "hang in there." Tragically, in most cases, the abuse continues, for in fact her husband's behavior has nothing to do with her actions.
Other reasons for staying with him may seem as compelling. A woman may feel that a divorce is wrong and that she should keep her marriage together at all costs. Perhaps she feels her children need a father. She may be isolated with no outside job and few friends. The friends and relatives she does talk to may give her little support, perhaps because her situation frightens them and they don't want to admit to themselves that such violence could occur. If she confides in a counselor, she may also be encouraged to "save the marriage." And, along with her emotional dependence, she may worry about being able to find a job to support herself and her children. If she has her husband arrested, he may not be able to support her. If she doesn't have him arrested, he may beat her even more severely for trying to leave him. Is there a way out? Most women suffer these attacks for years before they finally find the courage and determination to take steps to keep from being victims of further abuse.
WHAT CAN A BATTERED WOMAN DO?
The first step for a woman to take is to admit to herself that she is being abused and that she is not being treated fairly. She has the right to feel safe from physical harm, especially in her own home.
Emergency Action
A woman can do a number of things to protect herself. She can hide extra money, car keys, and important do*****ents somewhere safe so that she can get to them in a hurry. The phone number of the police department should be handy. She should have a place to go, such as an emergency shelter, a social service agency, or the home of a trusted friend or relative.
During an actual attack, the woman should defend herself as best she can. As soon as she is able, she should call the police and get their names and badge numbers in case she needs a record of the attack. Most importantly, she should leave the house and take her children with her. She may need medical attention, too. Because she might be hurt more seriously than she realizes. Having a record or her injuries, including photographs, can protect her legally should she decide to press charges.
Long Range Plans
A woman needs to talk to people who can help. Good friends can lend support and guidance. Organizations that are devoted to women's concerns and not bound by society's traditions can assist her. They might help her explore her opinions in new ways. Emergency shelters for women, hotlines, women's organizations, social service agencies, community mental health centers, and hospital emergency rooms are all possible sources of support.
The following organizations have information about state contacts and shelters where a battered woman can go for help:
Center for Women Policy Studies 2000 P Street, N.W., #508 Washington, DC 20036 (202) 872-1770
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence 1728 N Street, N.W. Washington, DC 20036
Above all, a woman has to determine her own best course of action. Positive measures such as confiding in a relative, talking seriously with a friend, or consulting with a counselor are steps in the right direction. With the help of informal and formal help sources, including individual counseling for the husband as well as herself, a woman may be able to bring an end to the problem.
It has been observed that abused women need to develop better feelings about themselves - that is, change their self-image. In a book, "Stopping Wife Abuse," by Jennifer Baker Fleming, the following attitudes are suggested as positive and useful:
.I am not to blame for being beaten and abused. .I am not the cause of another's violent behavior. .I do not like it or want it. .I do not have to take it. .I am an important human being. .I am a worthwhile woman. .I deserve to be treated with respect. .I do have power over my own life. .I can use my power to take good care of myself. .I can decide for myself what is best for me. .I can make changes in my life if I want to. .I am not alone. I can ask others to help me. .I am worth working for and changing for. .I deserve to make my own life and happy.
PREVENTION
Since there is no one cause of wife abuse, there is no easy way to prevent it. Until society rejects its tolerance and acceptance of violence for resolving conflicts an expressing anger, meaningful changes in family relationships will not occur. Prevention starts with people changing their attitudes toward violence and women. No one deserves to be beaten or physically threatened, no matter what the excuse. It is a crime to beat anyone - a stranger, a friend, or your wife - and the law should be enforced. The tolerance of family violence as a way of life in one generation encourages family violence in another generation. Since the wife abuser didn't learn to deal with anger appropriately as a child, he handles his frustrations through aggression. He needs to know that it's human to feel anger, but inhuman to release those feelings by beating others. By learning to deal with these emotions through acceptable behavior, he can gain respect for himself and others. It's another positive step towards developing mutual respect in the husband/wife relationship where each sees the other as a worthy human being.
REFERENCES
Bowker, Lee H. WOMEN AND CRIME IN AMERICA, New York: Macmillan Publishing Co., Inc., 1981, Part II: pp. 234-328.
ABOUT WIFE ABUSE, South Deerfield, MA: Channing L. Bete Co., Inc., 1979.
Fleming, Jennifer Baker, STOPPING WIFE ABUSE: A GUIDE TO THE EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL, AND LEGAL IMPLICATIONS...FOR THE ABUSED WOMAN AND THOSE HELPING HER. New York: Anchor Press/ Doubleday, 1979.
Jaffe, Natalie. ASSAULTS ON WOMEN: RAPE AND WIFE-BEATING. New York: Public Affairs Committee, Inc. (Public Affairs Pamphlet No. 579).
Martin, Del. BATTERED WIVES. San Francisco: Glide Publication, 1976.
Straus, Murray A., Gelles, Richard J., and Steinmetz, Suzanne, BEHIND CLOSED DOORS: VIOLENCE IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY, New York: Anchor Books, 1980.
Walker, Lenore. THE BATTERED WOMAN. New York: Harper & Row, 1979.
This material was written by Lenore Gelb, staff writer, in consultation with NIMH scientists.
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WE DID IT THE 2 LAWS WE HAD HAVE BEEEN JOINED WITH SEVERAL OTHERS AND ARE IN THE SENATE TO BE VOTED ON.WE RECEIVED A 4 PAGE LETTER FROM SENATER JOE BIDEN AND SEVERAL OTHERS SENATERS THANKING US.....JOB WELL DONE ABUSE FREEDOM UNITED!!!!!!!!!
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blueeyedangel2766 writes "Judiciary Committee Passes Biden Bills to Protect Families
Biden’s legislation protects families from violence inside the home and on-line
May 15, 2008
Washington, DC – Today, the Senate Judiciary Committee passed two bipartisan bills by U.S. Senator Joseph R. Biden Jr. (D-DE) designed to protect families from violence at home and on the Internet. The legislation provides greater roles for federal leadership and increased resources to protect children against exploitation online and create a network of volunteer attorneys to combat domestic violence.
“When it comes to protecting communities from violence, federal resources and attention are sorely lacking,” said Sen. Biden, Chairman of the Senate Judiciary Subcommittee on Crime and Drugs. “We need to give law enforcement and community organizations the tools they need to help protect families across the country from becoming victims. And, we need to connect victims with the resources they need to move on with their lives.”
The Judiciary Committee unanimously approved the Combating Child Exploitation Act of 2007 (S.1738) and the National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act (S.1515). Before these bills can be signed into law, the full Senate must vote on the legislation.
Combating Child Exploitation Act of 2007
“At the same time when the Internet has given children access to the world – it has also given the world access to our kids,” said Sen. Biden. “Protecting them requires continuing and constant vigilance – in our neighborhoods, in our homes and on-line. We need to give law enforcement the funds and the tools to pull the plug on Internet predators.”
At Senate and House hearings to explore the magnitude of online child exploitation in this country, the Department of Justice and the FBI testified that child exploitation is growing rapidly. Last month, a USA Today story examined new investigative techniques that have allowed law enforcement to identify over 600,000 unique computers trafficking child pornography over the Internet. Due to the lack of resources at the Federal, state and local level, however, we are investigating less than 2 percent of these cases. Research shows that if we were to investigate these cases we could rescue a victim of child exploitation at least 30 percent of the time.
The Combating Child Exploitation Act, passed by the House of Representatives in October 2007, takes a bold step forward in addressing the growing problem of child exploitation by creating a strong nationwide network of highly trained law enforcement experts to track down these offenders and put them away. Specifically, the bill requires the Department of Justice to develop and implement National Strategy for Child Exploitation Prevention and Interdiction. Requiring the Department to develop this strategy will ensure that we are taking a comprehensive, forward-looking approach to address this growing problem. In addition, the bill increases the number of federal agents focused on child exploitation and builds upon the critical Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force Program to ensure that we have at least one cyber unit in each state dedicated to these cases.
National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act
“Thousands of victims of domestic violence go without legal representation every day in this country. We can't allow this to continue,” said Sen. Biden. “When victims can obtain effective protection orders, initiate separation proceedings and can rely on safe child custody hearings, they are more likely to come out of the shadows.”
Fourteen years after the initial passage of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), domestic violence remains a stark reality for 1 in 4 American women. Experts estimate at best, less than 1 out of 5 low-income victims ever see a lawyer. The National Domestic Violence Hotline reports a total of 236,907 callers in 2007 alone, an average of 4,556 calls a week. The second most frequent reason victims call the Hotline is to ask for legal help. Escaping violence at home can involve complex legal matters, and the National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act ensures comprehensive training for volunteer attorneys, hands-on oversight and management by local experts, and coordination with statewide legal coordinators.
The National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act taps into a wealth of resources – lawyers who want to volunteer to represent domestic violence victims. This legislation creates, for the first time, a streamlined national system to recruit and train volunteer lawyers and match them with domestic violence victims. Under the bill, an Internet-based National Domestic Violence Attorney Network would be coordinated and managed by the American Bar Association; statewide legal coordinators would manage legal services in their individual states; and the National Domestic Violence Hotline and Internet-based services would provide legal referrals to victims. The historic partnership forged in this bill will link lawyers quickly and seamlessly to training and new clients. And at the same time desperate victims will be referred to a statewide coordinator and quickly connected to a lawyer.
For more information about the individual pieces of legislation, please see the fact sheet below.
BIDEN BILLS PROTECT FAMILIES - FACT SHEET
The Senate Judiciary Committee approved two Biden bills designed to provide the federal leadership and resources to protect children against exploitation online and create a network of volunteer attorneys to combat domestic violence.
Combating Child Exploitation Act (S.1738)
The Combating Child Exploitation Act of 2007 will authorize $1.06 billion over the next eight years to:
Enhance the Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Grant Program
The Attorney General will be required to establish a formula grant program for the Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force Program, funded at $60 million for FY 2008, increasing to $100 million in FY 2015. This will ensure that local agencies have the additional resources necessary to create robust cyber units with highly trained investigators;
Increase Federal Agents
The bill will authorize over $40 million per year over the next eight years for 250 new federal agents at the FBI, the Immigrations and Custom Enforcement Agency, and the U.S. Postal Service. These new agents will be dedicated to child exploitation cases and;
Increase Forensic Capacity
$7 million per year to establish increased forensic capacity for child exploitation cases at the Regional Computer Forensic Labs (RCFL).
National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act (S.1515)
The National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act:
Creates a National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Referral Project to be managed by the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence.
With $2 million of new federal funding for each of the first two years, the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence will solicit for volunteer lawyers and then create and maintain an electronic network. It will provide appropriate mentoring, training and technical assistance to volunteer lawyers. And it will establish and maintain a point of contact in each state – a statewide legal coordinator – to help match willing lawyers to victims.
Enlists the National Domestic Violence Hotline and Internet sources to provide legal referrals.
The bill will authorize $500,000 of new federal spending to the National Domestic Violence Hotline to update their system and train advocates on how to provide legal referrals to callers in coordination with the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence. Legal referrals may also be done by qualified Internet-based services.
Creates a Pilot Program and National Rollout of National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network and Referral Project.
The bill designs a pilot program to implement the volunteer attorney network in five diverse states with $750,000 grants. The Office on Violence Against Women in the Department of Justice will administer these monies to qualified statewide legal coordinators to help them connect with the ABA Commission on Domestic Violence, the National Domestic Violence Hotline, and the volunteer lawyers. After a successful stint in five states, the bill will rollout the program nationally with annual appropriations of $8 million each year.
Establishes a Domestic Violence Legal Advisory Task Force.
Mandates the National Institute of Justice to study each state and assess the scope and quality of legal services available to battered women and report back to Congress within a year.
An excellent roundtable of groups reviewed and contributed to this legislation, including the National Network to End Domestic Violence, the Legal Resource Center for Violence Against Women, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, the American Bar Association, WomensLaw.org, the National Domestic Violence Hotline, the Legal Services Corporation, the American Prosecutors Research Institute, National Legal Aid and Defenders Association, National Center for State Courts, National Association for Attorneys General, Battered Women’s Justice Project, National Association of Women Judges, National Association of Women Lawyers, National Crime Victim Bar Association and National Center for the Victims of Crime.
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Hooray and kudos to florida!!!!they pased the kids safe surfing harbor law and it is now a new deterrent to all pedophiles.you won;t just walk away with a slap on the wrist..thanks to all the diligent work it has taken from Carlos Boyer who is the author of the law.to a couple t and many kudo to danni who got in their faces and helped to be the winning facto.GOD BLESS YOU DANNI!!!COUPLE of kudo to myself for pushing i!!!!IT SO DERN HARD FOR 2 YEARS..
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Posted by gracenangels on Wednesday, May 21 @ 11:37:10 GMT (18 reads)
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blueeyedangel2766 writes "Reform Pedophile Sentencing 265 Signatures
Published by robin blithe on Mar 02, 2008
Category: Children's Rights
Region: United States of America
Target: everyone
Web site: http://WWW.ABUSEFREEDOM.COM
Description/History:
The passage of laws by the state legislative bodies is an ongoing process.
Some laws are new, some are changed and some are the same. The legislature takes many factors into consideration before it passes or changes a law. It considers the equity of the measure, the interest of the local populace and the lobbying interests. The most compelling of these factors is the interests of the local populace.
If a law is passed that is contrary ti the interest of the people. the legislators may not get re-elected and the law will eventually be changed anyway. however, the legislators have been able to cir*****vent this problem by passing a law and calling for little or no consequences for breaking the law.
Another way if for a sentencing that is ambiguous. This allows members of the judiciary branch to replace the will of the people and impose their own personal values. This often results in sentencing that is so lenient that a public outcry ensues. This is a particularly grievous situation when the law is one designed to protect our children. THERE IS NO CAUSE MORE NOBLE THAN THE CAUSE OF NURTURING AND PROTECTING OUR CHILDREN.
One of the areas where protection is vital is the area of pedophiles. Pedophiles have an incurable sickness that rules their life. Consequently, most states have enacted laws designed to protect our children. It is not the laws that need changing as much as the way the convicted pedophiles are sentenced and their subsequently gentle treatment under the probation and parole laws.
As a weak substitute for inadequate sentencing, most states have a requirement that convicted pedophiles be listed on a register that identifies them as a pedophile so that parents can be alert to their location and take proper precautions. Unfortunately, many fail to register and fly under the radar.
There is also a class of convicted pedophiles that are either not on registers or are on registers to which the general public has no access. These are the pedophiles that molest, abuse, and violate members of their own family. There are hundreds of thousands of convicted pedophiles in the United States. Most are not on any register.
In order to protect our children we need no-nonsense laws with mandatory sentencing and positive control of convicted pedophiles after they have served their sentence.
Petition:
We support the following:
First offence: Fifteen years without parole.
Second offence: Twenty-five years without parole.
Third offence: Life without parole.
Any pedophile that serves his/her time shall be required to wear a location anklet at all times. Since the sickness lasts for a lifetime, so should wearing the anklet.
ABUSE FREEDOM UNITED
CARLOS BOYER
Sign the petitionThe Reform Pedophile Sentencing petition to everyone was written by robin blithe and is hosted free of charge at GoPetition.
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Posted by gracenangels on Wednesday, May 21 @ 11:35:36 GMT (28 reads)
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blueeyedangel2766 writes "Judiciary Committee Passes Biden Bills to Protect Families
Biden’s legislation protects families from violence inside the home and on-line
May 15, 2008
Washington, DC – Today, the Senate Judiciary Committee passed two bipartisan bills by U.S. Senator Joseph R. Biden Jr. (D-DE) designed to protect families from violence at home and on the Internet. The legislation provides greater roles for federal leadership and increased resources to protect children against exploitation online and create a network of volunteer attorneys to combat domestic violence.
“When it comes to protecting communities from violence, federal resources and attention are sorely lacking,” said Sen. Biden, Chairman of the Senate Judiciary Subcommittee on Crime and Drugs. “We need to give law enforcement and community organizations the tools they need to help protect families across the country from becoming victims. And, we need to connect victims with the resources they need to move on with their lives.”
The Judiciary Committee unanimously approved the Combating Child Exploitation Act of 2007 (S.1738) and the National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act (S.1515). Before these bills can be signed into law, the full Senate must vote on the legislation.
Combating Child Exploitation Act of 2007
“At the same time when the Internet has given children access to the world – it has also given the world access to our kids,” said Sen. Biden. “Protecting them requires continuing and constant vigilance – in our neighborhoods, in our homes and on-line. We need to give law enforcement the funds and the tools to pull the plug on Internet predators.”
At Senate and House hearings to explore the magnitude of online child exploitation in this country, the Department of Justice and the FBI testified that child exploitation is growing rapidly. Last month, a USA Today story examined new investigative techniques that have allowed law enforcement to identify over 600,000 unique computers trafficking child pornography over the Internet. Due to the lack of resources at the Federal, state and local level, however, we are investigating less than 2 percent of these cases. Research shows that if we were to investigate these cases we could rescue a victim of child exploitation at least 30 percent of the time.
The Combating Child Exploitation Act, passed by the House of Representatives in October 2007, takes a bold step forward in addressing the growing problem of child exploitation by creating a strong nationwide network of highly trained law enforcement experts to track down these offenders and put them away. Specifically, the bill requires the Department of Justice to develop and implement National Strategy for Child Exploitation Prevention and Interdiction. Requiring the Department to develop this strategy will ensure that we are taking a comprehensive, forward-looking approach to address this growing problem. In addition, the bill increases the number of federal agents focused on child exploitation and builds upon the critical Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force Program to ensure that we have at least one cyber unit in each state dedicated to these cases.
National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act
“Thousands of victims of domestic violence go without legal representation every day in this country. We can't allow this to continue,” said Sen. Biden. “When victims can obtain effective protection orders, initiate separation proceedings and can rely on safe child custody hearings, they are more likely to come out of the shadows.”
Fourteen years after the initial passage of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), domestic violence remains a stark reality for 1 in 4 American women. Experts estimate at best, less than 1 out of 5 low-income victims ever see a lawyer. The National Domestic Violence Hotline reports a total of 236,907 callers in 2007 alone, an average of 4,556 calls a week. The second most frequent reason victims call the Hotline is to ask for legal help. Escaping violence at home can involve complex legal matters, and the National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act ensures comprehensive training for volunteer attorneys, hands-on oversight and management by local experts, and coordination with statewide legal coordinators.
The National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act taps into a wealth of resources – lawyers who want to volunteer to represent domestic violence victims. This legislation creates, for the first time, a streamlined national system to recruit and train volunteer lawyers and match them with domestic violence victims. Under the bill, an Internet-based National Domestic Violence Attorney Network would be coordinated and managed by the American Bar Association; statewide legal coordinators would manage legal services in their individual states; and the National Domestic Violence Hotline and Internet-based services would provide legal referrals to victims. The historic partnership forged in this bill will link lawyers quickly and seamlessly to training and new clients. And at the same time desperate victims will be referred to a statewide coordinator and quickly connected to a lawyer.
For more information about the individual pieces of legislation, please see the fact sheet below.
BIDEN BILLS PROTECT FAMILIES - FACT SHEET
The Senate Judiciary Committee approved two Biden bills designed to provide the federal leadership and resources to protect children against exploitation online and create a network of volunteer attorneys to combat domestic violence.
Combating Child Exploitation Act (S.1738)
The Combating Child Exploitation Act of 2007 will authorize $1.06 billion over the next eight years to:
Enhance the Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Grant Program
The Attorney General will be required to establish a formula grant program for the Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force Program, funded at $60 million for FY 2008, increasing to $100 million in FY 2015. This will ensure that local agencies have the additional resources necessary to create robust cyber units with highly trained investigators;
Increase Federal Agents
The bill will authorize over $40 million per year over the next eight years for 250 new federal agents at the FBI, the Immigrations and Custom Enforcement Agency, and the U.S. Postal Service. These new agents will be dedicated to child exploitation cases and;
Increase Forensic Capacity
$7 million per year to establish increased forensic capacity for child exploitation cases at the Regional Computer Forensic Labs (RCFL).
National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act (S.1515)
The National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Act:
Creates a National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network Referral Project to be managed by the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence.
With $2 million of new federal funding for each of the first two years, the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence will solicit for volunteer lawyers and then create and maintain an electronic network. It will provide appropriate mentoring, training and technical assistance to volunteer lawyers. And it will establish and maintain a point of contact in each state – a statewide legal coordinator – to help match willing lawyers to victims.
Enlists the National Domestic Violence Hotline and Internet sources to provide legal referrals.
The bill will authorize $500,000 of new federal spending to the National Domestic Violence Hotline to update their system and train advocates on how to provide legal referrals to callers in coordination with the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence. Legal referrals may also be done by qualified Internet-based services.
Creates a Pilot Program and National Rollout of National Domestic Violence Volunteer Attorney Network and Referral Project.
The bill designs a pilot program to implement the volunteer attorney network in five diverse states with $750,000 grants. The Office on Violence Against Women in the Department of Justice will administer these monies to qualified statewide legal coordinators to help them connect with the ABA Commission on Domestic Violence, the National Domestic Violence Hotline, and the volunteer lawyers. After a successful stint in five states, the bill will rollout the program nationally with annual appropriations of $8 million each year.
Establishes a Domestic Violence Legal Advisory Task Force.
Mandates the National Institute of Justice to study each state and assess the scope and quality of legal services available to battered women and report back to Congress within a year.
An excellent roundtable of groups reviewed and contributed to this legislation, including the National Network to End Domestic Violence, the Legal Resource Center for Violence Against Women, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, the American Bar Association, WomensLaw.org, the National Domestic Violence Hotline, the Legal Services Corporation, the American Prosecutors Research Institute, National Legal Aid and Defenders Association, National Center for State Courts, National Association for Attorneys General, Battered Women’s Justice Project, National Association of Women Judges, National Association of Women Lawyers, National Crime Victim Bar Association and National Center for the Victims of Crime.
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BIDEN Issues Statement on U.S.-North Korea Food Aid Announcement »
BIDEN to White House: 'Here’s What I Disagree With' »
BIDEN Legislation Authorizing Helicopters for the Peacekeeping Mission in Darfur Passes Appropriations Committee »
Biden: Bush Attack on Obama, Democrats Delusional and Disgraceful »
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ABUSE FREEDOM UNITED,
WELCOME EVERYONE I JUST WANT TO GIVE EVERYONE A BRIEF HISTORY ABOUT WHO WE ARE AND WHAT WE ARE DOING.WE ARE ABUSE FREEDOM UNITED , AND WE ARE DEDICATED TO HELPING THE ABUSED MEN , WOMEN , CHILDREN AND ANIMALS WE CURRENTLY HAVE A FEW PROJECTS GOING ON , A BRIEF OVERVIEW OF WHAT WE ARE WORKING ON IS FIRST WE ARE TRYING TO RAISE THE FUNDS TO HOST AN ABUSED WOMENS RETREAT IN THE MOUNTAINS OF SOUTH CAROLINA WE HAVE TRIED TO OBTAIN OUR 501C3 TO NO AVAIL THE ORGANIZATION THAT WE HIRED TOOK OUR MONEY AND HAS NOT BEEN HEARD FROM NOR CAN WE REACH THEM, WE HAVE STARTED A FUNDRAISER OF OUR OWN AND HAVE QUITE A FEW ITEMS IN OUR STORE ON THE LEFT HAND SIDE OF THE PAGE WE ALSO HAVE A DONATE BUTTON ON OUR SITE ALL PROCEEDS GO TO FUNDING THE PROGRAMS FOR THE ABUSED
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BROKEN
Love to her had a price to pay
Given to her, then cruelly taken away
Love became something that harmed her
Leaving her lost and confused
Leaving her scarred and bruised
She felt like a ragdoll
Easily tossed aside and forgotten
Until it was time to abuse her some more
Leaving her more damaged then before
Her cries were quickly silenced
And her tears she couldn't let show
She began to run to the safety
Of a world she created within
Keeping the outside world at a distance
To protect herself and heart again
Now she sits in her world within
Eyes fixed into the distance
Her will to fight slowly fading away
No reason she can find to continue on
Her body so tired and worn
She feels so cold and alone there
But so afraid to trust again
So she has locked her heart up so tight now
So no harm can come to her again
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